Now more than ever, wellness is at the front of all our minds. So, what is wellness and how does it relate to our mental health?
The World Health Organisation’s (WHO) definition is “Wellness is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.”
We all have mental health and it can vary throughout our lives, depending on our experiences and life situations. Lockdown has had a heightened effect on our mental health with:
Yet, mental health may still not be an easy subject to talk about.
Growing up in a small village, my mum suffered with her mental health. She was highly intelligent, yet never got true help. As a young child and teenager, I remember experiencing ridicule, shame and prejudice towards my mum’s mental health, often from adults. It stayed with me for a long time. My experience brought firsthand understanding and empathy for those suffering from mental health problems.
I now know that, with professional support, peoples’ stories can turn out to be very different. Tough experiences can help us develop grit and resilience. With support and new purpose, people can achieve great heights.
Public figures are now talking about, and not hiding from, their own experiences of mental ill-health. Be that anxiety, panic attacks and depression to repeated feelings of low mood and feeling unwell.
Sports personalities like England’s Football Team Manager Gareth Southgate and film superheroes like Chris Evans (Captain America) are sharing their experiences. English actor and comedian Stephen Fry is a well-known figurehead and the President of UK’s Mind. Young royals like the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry and their ‘Heads Together’ campaign all help to reduce the stigma around mental health.
However, we can still hold mental and emotional scars. Our wounds can surface when we least expect, especially when we are under extreme stress. Taking the time to be kind and tend to our wounds first can bring about healing and great strength, building our capacity to support ourselves, and others.
A trip to Tibet taught me about the power of kindness and compassion, not yet so familiar in our UK culture, and the great impact this can have to heal ourselves and others.
Dr. J Travis’ Wellness Inventory Workbook is brilliant, a really useful starting point. A progression of his “Illness – Wellness Continuum”, that he developed for the medical profession in the 1970s. Dr Travis’ inventory enables clients to self-assess, and then plot their strengths and areas of deficit, bridging the gap in traditional medicine – revealing the interconnectedness between our mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health.
In this holistic approach, “thinking, feeling and sensing” all make up the elements of mental health, whereas “work and play, relationships and communication” form part of our emotional health. Developing self-awareness and self-responsibility is empowering, bringing the choice to act – be that to talk to a trusted friend, to seek professional help, via a therapist, coach or the NHS / GP or to leave alone at this time.
As we move through change, we many need to find new ways to work together. New ways to engage with clients, colleagues and our teams. As you move though the process of change, elementas can help support you to keep well, so you can thrive and flourish.
elementas consultancy helps new start-ups and SME’s wanting to branch out and flourish. A combination of business mentoring, coaching and wellness services provides you with a Bespoke and Personalised service to make magic happen.
elementas unlocks your potential, your wise knowledge to help you to make confident decisions. From connecting you with new specialists or working with you and your team we ensure everyone knows their role and is heading in the same direction to reach their potential.
“Lou Booth is a brilliant mentor, she has lots of business knowledge in terms of planning, manufacturing, sales and marketing. She is also very helpful and is able to identify exactly what it is that is holding my business back from growth, and giving plenty of tips and ideas of how to eliminate them. She is wonderful to work with!”Steve Allen Operations Director Darwen Terracotta manufacturing
elementas successfully nurtures and brings teams together, energising and enabling you to:
“Lou has many skills including being understanding open and honest which supports communication between us and helps me with others, be they directors, volunteers, or staff”Dave Watkins Chairman Ribble Rail Ltd and Ribble Steam Railway and Museum
In projects, elementas brings together other like-minded people enabling collaboration. Sharing understanding and wisdom. Together we come together and support individuals and organisations to find the right solutions that work best for them.
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Now more that ever the value of wellness is front of mind. Whether you are an individual or an organisation looking to help your team keep well, elementas can help support you to flourish.
What is Wellness?
“Wellness is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” (The World Health Organisation (WHO))World Health Organisation (WHO))
“The active pursuit of activities, choices and lifestyles that lead to a state of holistic health.”(The Global Wellness Institute)
elementas wellness coaching packages will give you skills knowledge and wisdom to improve your wellness. These unique sessions have been designed after many years of training and experience of what exactly makes a different to peoples’ lives at work and home.
Sessions provide a safe, relaxing and confidential space to energise and support your journey to improve wellness, naturally.
elementas coaching integrates mind, body and emotions. Lou integrates traditional coaching training with natural mindfulness and compassion techniques that help you to tap into our unconscious mind and reconnect with your innate wisdom. Sessions will help you to:
Choose from three options; elementas Taster, Transition and Transform Packages designed to suit your personal needs.
Bespoke and Personalised
Options are designed to give you time to support you, to focus on how best to achieve your wellness goals.
Option 1 – elementas Taster- a quick fix, first/aid, quick wins (e.g. a drop in confidence, to get over a small set-back, help with current aims or ambitions). Suggested timescale 2 months.
Option 2 -elementas Transition- more in depth help (trying to increase your motivation, reduce your levels of stress or anxiety, improving wellbeing, setting up a new project or job, adapting to illness or making small to medium life changes). Suggested timescale 3-4 months.
Option 3 -elementas Transform – longer term support such as help with a major life event or change (e.g. making medium to larger life changes, major confidence issues, loss, separation, illness, changing jobs or business venture, children leaving home etc.). Suggested timescale 5 months +.
Session 1 –Currently sessions are on Zoom or Skype. Your initial session is 90 minutes. Together will benchmark your current state of wellness and spend time mapping your intentions, challenges and goals.
Follow on Sessions will be 75 minutes long, the timescale will depend on your needs. To book your first appointment, please contact Lou on 07715814833 or fill in the form below:
What Lies Beneath Your Emotions – Reaction Formation
Fascinating. Time to notice and be present with our feelings and emotions. To notice the patterns and habits. Thank you Dr. Eric Perry.
Being present is simple.
Yet it can be tricky and elusive in a world full of distractions and concerns.
How often are we truly present with ourselves and our loved ones?
Being present, brings moments of rest, awareness and clarity to our daily lives.
Here in less than a minute I offer tips to become present to our mind, body and emotions, to cultivate awareness and to lean in towards more wellness.
Intrigued maybe the elementas approach is for you? If so then let’s connect… Lou
It’s been two years since I was lucky enough to travel to the mysterious and wondrous Tibet.
Today as we navigate a global pandemic again I return to this far distant land, to reflect on what I discovered. I share what I experienced in this ancient civilisation – a link between our wellness, compassion and living to our inner values.
Tibet’s 17th Century Potala Palace stands tall. Potala is a world famous cultural and historical icon. A towering ancient monument overseeing the rapidly changing infrastructure of Lhasa below. Today Potala watches the advancing tower blocks and western high street brands below; symbols of globalisation and our thirst for materialistic culture, our 21st century religion.
Potala’s heavily restricted and guarded access pays testament to Tibet’s complicated history, and current spiritual and political tensions. Heightened by the absence of the World famous figure of compassion and the Tibetan spiritual leader, His Holiness the 14th Dali Lama. His Holiness has been unable to return to Potala, (his winter home and palace) since his exile from Tibet in 1959.
Around the base of the Polala however, a mesmerising sight. Local Tibetan people, of all ages, connected together mindfully walking their early morning ritual, their daily Kora. Unfazed, walking clockwise in their Tibetan dignity, quietly chanting, prayer wheels and beads in hand. Dedicated in their devotion, to their deep spiritual roots.
Intrigued I ask Jigme my Tibetan guide “why are people walking round the Potala?“
“Lou mam, The Daily ritual of Kora, helps the Tibetan people bring peace of mind to their daily lives. They rise early before work to undertake the 30 minute circular Potala, maybe one or up to three times, a practise to show their inner faith, prayer, love and compassion for their spiritual leader and others.”
One cannot help but be touched by this profound show of devotion, their compassion, purpose and meaning. The Kora is a powerfully quiet and peaceful demonstration of Tibetan inner faith, a focus connecting inwards to their strong sense of intrinsic values. All set amidst the landscape of “The Cultural Revolution”, initiated in 1966 by China’s Chairman Mao.
Later chatting Jigme explained “In Tibet Buddhism there is no “I”, there is a “We”” , he continued knowing my interest, “I is for Illness, We is for Wellness”. A very different philosophy to the Western culture that I know so well that focuses on the ego and individualism, and often a lack of or little self-compassion. My guide smiled at me knowingly, as “I” in true Western fashion opted for the closest seat in the restaurant’s stove to warm up!
The lack of influence Tibetans have on their outside world is well known, from restrictions on access to information and lack of freedom to travel. At times we felt the officialdom with countless police and army checks, visas and controlled movements in our trip. My thoughts move to what I hear about the rise of and growing stress and anxiety in the Western World.
In my role as a coach I listen to clients voicing the restrictions they feel about their personal and work lives, their concern over personal wellness. I hear that their relationships, jobs, bosses or organisational cultures often fail to meet their basic intrinsic needs. Basic needs described by psychologist and neuroscientist Rick Hanson Ph.D., of feeling fulfilled, valued, safe and loved.
Turning again, back to Tibet. I notice the spirit of community with the Tibetan people. They appear unfazed and authentic, bringing a peaceful, calm antidote to the surrounding hostility and armed police presence. I observe the normal, every day, human interactions between the young officials and Tibetan children and Elders. I wonder are the Tibetans quietly revealing their ancient, inner secret, their sacred wisdom of wellness?
Going inwards, the Tibetans seem to be finding a way.
Now another mountain to climb as we make our way along spectacular hairpin bends and mountain passes to the roof of the world and Everest Base Camp.
Lou Booth (May 2018)
Do you know where you are heading? If not it may be time to stop, get your bearings and reset your inner compass.
Deciding where you want to be can sometimes be a little tricky! Especially if it feels like you are in the middle of a constant storm of uncertainty.
Taking time and space to assess your personal situation can make a big difference to your life. In giving yourself space in your schedule, you have chance to reflect upon your circumstances. Time to consider, your goals and to explore your current perceptions and reality versus your potential future.
And then, once you are more aware, more conscious, you will be better equipped to decide, what is your best way forward to your chosen destination? That may sound exciting, or scary. Or perhaps maybe even a little overwhelming? It can be, that is why we sometimes get lost or veer off course, pulled by the forces of our lifestyle choices and currents of our daily distractions.
How can coaching can help?
The coaching process is designed to help you unlock your potential. It offers you a personalised one-to-one support. A coach offers you a confidential space and acts as an objective sounding board. Coaching offers you a structured, professional process to help to work through your agenda. Your needs, wants and aspirations. The tools and practices are designed to help you free up you thinking, bringing new energy, and extra guidance to your decisions. Enabling you to unlock and harness your potential, so you can set sail confident it’s your best route of travel. Accompanied by tailored coaching support, motivation and guidance to help you keep on course.
“elementas, I believe that together we flourish ”
(Founder elementas coaching)
To book your first coaching appointment contact Lou firstname.lastname@example.org or call 07715714833 to learn more.
(Photos Mauritius Sept. 2017)
Can you remember the last time you were home? Truly Home?
I’m not talking about where you live; I’m talking about that pure contentment we feel, when all is well. Nothing to do, nowhere to be, those moments when we are safe, connected, and content with ourselves, and our life.
Can you recall a familiar space and place, where you belong, where you are truly connected, be that alone or with loved ones? A place where we can sense satisfaction, a non-craving. A space where we can be peace with ourselves and our world.
“To feel at Home – to feel comfortable and relaxed”source Cambridge dictionary
Some of you will be saying, “I know that space. I spend a lot of time there”………
Well read no more. Well done, share with others, help them find how to come home too.
For those of us on a journey, we need to keep learning to return to our home base, so keep reading………
We often inhibit a turbulent over stimulated world where can busyness is the norm at work and home. The news that sells best and grabs our attention and triggers the ‘fight, flight, freeze’ part of our emotional Brain to engage, is fear based. Triggering chemicals that can be keep us on high alert for hours after. As fearfulness is churned out by social and news platforms 24/7, it can be really tricky to switch off. Even if you are ok, someone you care about may be distressed. So how do we keep coming home to ourselves? Our Home base.
Yes sure we need to leave home, engage with the world and the external landscape that keeps taking us out. As with any trip or journey be prepared! Remember to make sure you keep strong and resilient with a supply of tools and techniques to keep safe. Then you can keep venturing out, safe in the knowledge that you can return Home often to reflect and regenerate.
As well as practical personal experience, I draw from the latest thinking of behavioural psychologists, neuroscience research, wellness experts and traditional, ancient Tao and Buddhist practices. I hope some of my favourite tips may resonate with you.
Ten Steps To Coming Home
1. Notice what and who triggers and distracts you and takes away your balance. Build in more breathing space or just plain avoid.
2. Figure what and who is toxic to your wellness, and notice how this disturbs your peace of mind.
3. Accept what is, leave it alone (the darts of our suffering), or at least don’t make it any worse!
4. Take small steps (again and again) make the changes you know will help you “tend to and heal your wound”.
5. Only give what you are ‘willing to give and receive what you are willing to receive”.
6. Find what really nurtures and nourishes you, and spend heaps of time there.
7. Remember to take in the good stuff, be really present in it and totally absorb it, and practice the science of gratitude.
8. Cultivate kindness and compassion for yourself and others.
9. Breath deeply, listen well and be more present and in the moment with those you love (they will notice!)
10. Return more often and quicker to your Home base.
“know yourself and you will win all battles”Sun Tzu
Notice how often you are happier in your inner landscape. It is here that you have true impact. Trust how your external landscape starts to looks, sound and feel different from this true vantage point.
If you want to know more or need support to cultivate you mental and emotional Home space, please get in touch – call me on 07715814833, or drop me a line at email@example.com.
Work Well: Live Well: Be Well
Be more relaxed and happier at work, more connected and present with the people and creatures that matter the most to you.
Live life with more clarity, more focus. Show up more with more presence. Imagine failing faster, making better choices, and confidently providing for and supporting others. Ultimately cultivating more joy, more personal reward, giving yourself permission to succeed and relax.
Well I believe you can do all this and it isn’t that complex.
Experts and researchers in the fields of evolutionary psychology and neuroscience seem to agree. I will make it simple and pass on my learning so you can easily do it for yourself.
If you are curious about your reaching your potential and are ready to take a fresh approach, let me show you how. Together we’ll bring to light to your personal blocks and any stubborn resistance.
If coming home, connecting and living to your value system strikes a chord, and my approach resonates, then let’s share a cuppa and talk about unearthing new insights.
Over the years I have had the pleasure to meet managers, leaders and owners to discuss business and life experiences. Most are coaching in a similar style. Looking for a different approach? I can highly recommend Lou to guide you to your balanced lifestyle and business achievement” Darren
Think less about what you have to do, more about the way you want to do it!
And let’s do in your life time!
Executive Business and Wellness Coach Post Grad Certificate Mindfulness (MSc)
BA (Hons) DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer