“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” Mahatma Gandi
Mahatma Gandi’s words ring so true, but how do we change these habitual habits, tendencies and ways of operating? Remember our strategies for getting what we want may well have served us well in the past. They may have helped us in our relationships or to get that work promotion. But these strategies can stop working as well, or suit us. We may need to do something different.
Here are some simple ideas and tips to get you started and a helpful and simple definition of Mindfulness from the Mindfulness Association’s Rob Nairn.
- Start to be more aware of your habits and tendencies.
- Watch yourself, pause, observe your thoughts, words, feelings, action (this is where the magic begins)
- Refrain from self-judgement.
- Cultivate compassion.
- Try a new approach, something different that is more aligned to your authentic self. This can more tricky and we may need help.
The tools, skills and practises I offer in coaching and the “Living the Life You Love” group sessions (below) are valuable to help and support personal change with in the above stages.